When you were a kid, did you do all sorts of dumb things and got yelled at for it?
We have all been there. Parents are the finickiest things. As you grow older, you probably finally begin to understand what your parents meant when they told you not to do drugs or not to get pregnancy in high school (otherwise they’ll kick you out). But when you were a kid, it’s pretty hard to imagine what your mom’s thinking. Hopefully these lessons from mom will remind you of your childhood and help you appreciate mom more.
1. Eat all your veggies, especially your broccoli.
One of the biggest things I learned when I move out was that I needed to eat more veggies, because my digestion was not getting better by the day. After eating junk food for the first year of college, I totally started regretted not having enough vegetables to eat at home. I really missed having my mom’s home-cooked meals!
2. Dating too early takes away from your childhood.
I had my first crush in Grade 1, which is pretty early for most kids. When I got to Grade 8, I wanted to have a boyfriend but my mom wouldn’t let me have a boyfriend until I was 18. I was mad at her at the time, but it’s so understandable now when you realize your parents don’t want you to grow up. It’s a risk when you start dating early; kids at that age are so susceptible. I’m glad I didn’t have my first boyfriend until I was 17 because by then I’d learned all the risks and got to hold on to my innocence for so much longer.
3. Try not to talk bad about other people.
Some people still haven’t learned this, even in adulthood. You may hate someone for all that matters, but talking about them with other people behind their back isn’t justified, and won’t make you a better person. If you do it often, people will think that you probably do this all the time, and no one will know if you’re doing the same thing behind theirs. So yes, you can vent out your anger once in a while, but please don’t constantly whine and bitch about other people (because honestly, most of us don’t really care).
4. Learning to cook will save you tons of money when you live alone.
Cooking was never my strong suit. As mentioned before, I ate junk food for a year before learning to finally cook. When I went home during Christmas break, I begged my mom to teach me how to cook the dishes she makes. I’m glad I finally know how to cook soy sauce chicken now.
5. Finding love wasn’t the sole purpose in life.
Having been in several relationships (since I was 17), I realized that dating around didn’t mean “being madly in love with the person”. It meant having a stable bond that’s closer than a friendship, having mutual respect for each other, and being financially insecure. “Real everlasting love” doesn’t exist. It’s all about working things out. Learn from your parents’ relationship and set a good example for people around you!
6. Cleaning your room will breed into good habits.
Like everyone else, cleaning your room was probably the thing you dreaded the most. I hated having to make my bed in the morning and having to clean the dishes every night. It was those little things my mom nagged me to do that eventually helped me when I moved out. I will admit — I’m not the cleanliest person at home. I think if I had actually listened to my mom when she taught me how to properly clean a stove I would be a lot better off.
7. Embrace the opportunity to learn; never stop learning.
School isn’t fun. Going to learn something you like can be. I was forced into college by my mom, and although I don’t think it was worth the 40k of debt, I gained experience that I wouldn’t have if I didn’t. I loved my experiences in college and I realized that your brain isn’t ever going to be as sharp as when you’re young. Take the opportunity to learn as much as you can, and never give up on what you’re passionate about!
8. Smoking and drugs are a choice until you’re addicted.
I remember when I was a kid and I hated the smell of smoke on my dad. I would beg him to quit everyday. As I grew older, people around me influenced me to start smoking. It was a horrible decision — and I really regretted it. At first, I thought I had the choice when to smoke. As I smoked more, it was more and more dependent for me, I realized that I’d lost that choice.
9. Aim to get whatever you want out of your life.
My mom always believed in me and told me that I could do anything I wanted in life. This included relationships, work and school. I always had her support and knew that even if I failed, I could pick myself back up. Never give up on what you believe in, because you could do amazing things if you work hard enough at it!
10. Most people are temporary — there are only a few that will stick with you for life.
When you’re in financial trouble and you need someone there for you, who are you going to call? The people that you party with on Fridays? Are they going to lend you $2000 out of the blue? No. There are going to be people that are temporarily in your life. You probably won’t see them in a few years (or months). But then, there are the people like your family and your closest friends who have proven that they will be there for you no matter what, and that they actually care about you as a person. My mom will always be there for me. Remember to always appreciate these people, and to reciprocate the same thing back.
What have you learned from your mom?
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