If you’re serious about your relationship and hopefully plan to marry your boyfriend one day you should probably put some effort into trying to impress his parents. Or at least being cordial with them. If your guy is not good to his family this could point to some red flags. You can usually tell what kind of man he is depending on how he treats his parents (his mother particularly).
Of course there are always exceptions as to why your boyfriend may not get along with his parents and hopefully you guys can discuss it openly. This list will mostly apply to sons that have good relationships with their parents but still may not apply to your situation. Parents come in all types so figure out the type you are dealing with first and then apply these to your relationship with them.
If you’re reading this, it means you obviously want to win over your boyfriend’s parents so let’s get into it.
Unless you’re a serial killer or some sort of extremist, the best advice is to just be yourself. Your boyfriend loves you for a reason and if he’s anything like his parents, so will they. Just be your regular self. No one likes to see someone put on show. Your relationship with your boyfriend is top priority. A relationship with his parents will come in time.
If you randomly come across your boyfriend’s parents while you’re out, make an effort to say hello to them. Don’t go dodging into the nearest store you can find hoping they didn’t see you. Chances are they did and you dodging them is going to be a real awkward situation to explain the next time you’re invited over.
This is pretty basic but maybe you’re used to being invited over or simply forgot. Just make an effort to thank them for the things they do for you. Even if it’s something small, they will appreciate the time you took to acknowledge the effort they put into preparing the meal. Manners will get you far.
If you’re over at his house and you see his Mom come home with groceries, offer to help. Help take a few bags inside and ask if she needs help with anything else. She will like that you took the initiative to ask and help out. Even if she doesn’t need help, she will appreciate the gesture. You can also offer to run other errands she may need, like an important ingredient she forgot at the store or mailing something for her. Just offer to help.
You don’t need to be bff’s with your boyfriend’s parents but it would be a nice to have something to talk to them about. Try and make an effort to find out what his parents like and discuss it with them. Maybe his mom really loves a show you like as well. You could discuss about that. Make sure to keep it light and never ever talk about religion or politics.
Smile, be nice, and dress appropriately. Of course, you shouldn’t be expected to dress in turtlenecks and pants but you also shouldn’t be wearing crop tops and booty shorts. Dress like yourself but make sure it’s parent friendly. We don’t want any indecent exposure or wardrobe malfunctions.
If you’re close with his siblings, you probably won’t have to work as hard to impress your boyfriend’s parents. Getting to know your boyfriend’s siblings can help you score points with his parents. If his siblings like you, his parent’s will probably see it as a good indication that they should like you too. The more people in his family that likes you, the better odds you have of the parent’s liking you too.
When invited over for dinner, always bring something. Be it food, wine, or flowers. Bring something that shows you aren’t just there to mooch off and that you wanted to contribute somehow. You can never have enough food or wine so these are always good options.
How did you win over your boyfriend’s parents? Or are you still working on it?
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