Slut-Shaming: Ladies, We Need to Stop

Slut shaming

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When we were seven the worst thing we probably called each other was a “monkey’s uncle.”

We would giggle and laugh and tease each other, playing with dolls or outside on the chalk-drawn hopscotch. We had no worries about acne or trends or boys (for the most part). We would read or play house or have adventures with the help of our imagination. And the worst thing we were, was a “monkey’s uncle” or “it” in a game of tag. We were seven and carefree, with curious eyes, and a smile that stretched.

So tell me: would that 7-year-old version of yourself want to be called a slut?

Would she call someone else a slut?

It seems that somewhere between puberty and now – and within the last few decades – slut-shaming has become a prominent part of our society.

And it shouldn’t.

But we’re slut-shaming without realizing it.

When a woman is raped she is seen as “asking for it.” If a woman wears a short skirt she is seen as “far from a prude.” If a woman sleeps around, well, we know how that goes. How is it a guy who sleeps around is glorified, but a woman who does the same is seen as a slut?

If we were to look at a list of names given to men if they slept around it would include: womanizer and playboy. If we were to look at a list of names given to women if they slept around it would include: slut, whore, skank, bitch, promiscuous, and easy.

To be honest, the lists could go on and on, but at the end of the day, based on societal beliefs, the women’s list will always be longer than the males.

Why? How is that fair at all?

Slut-shaming is not OK.  Slut-shaming is far from OK, but for some reason, it’s still happening.

But it’s not just about sex.

Taylor Swift’s “You Belong With Me” is a prime example of such behaviour. Lyrically Swift compares her geeky character’s t-shirts, with the cheer captain’s short skirts and high heels. While she doesn’t ever use the term slut in her song, by comparing the difference in outfits what she insinuates is that a woman who does wear short skirts isn’t as good in comparison to this female character that doesn’t.

This is a prime example of what a recent study uncovered. Slut-shaming is about more than just the number of one’s sexual partners, it’s actually also about social hierarchy.

This study was conducted in a university setting. In this study researchers found that sorority/rich girls defined the less-alfuent females as trashy, while the less-afluent found sorority girls to be “whorish.”

Slut-shaming wasn’t just a means of making women feel dirty if they slept around, it became a way to make sure women didn’t belong.

It’s not OK.

When did we suddenly choose to drop our skip ropes and suddenly pick up slut-shaming as a weapon? No matter what our belief is when it comes to sex or what we should wear, we shouldn’t be slut-shaming each other.

We should set out to defend our 7-year-old selves from a world filled with hate. We should set out to remind our 7-year-old selves we should be working together, not shaming each other.

Think of the little girl with the big, curious eyes, and tell me, would you call her a slut to her face?

How can we expect men to respect us, if we can’t even respect each other?

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 Tell us…

How do you react when you hear someone call a girl a slut?

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