Michael Ricci Tells His Side Of Being Sued By His 21-Year-Old Daughter

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As we may have heard a year ago, Michael Ricci and Maura McGarvey were sued by their daughter, Caitlyn Ricciand were forced by a New Jersey judge to pay her $16,000. According to New Jersey Law, even though she is in college, it’s still up to parents who are financially stable (who are albeit divorced) to pay for her tuition.

If you haven’t heard about it, it sparked a huge controversy on the internet because people were saying that since she’s already 21  years old, she should be paying for her own tuition. On the other side, people said that her parents not only kicked her out, but they did not support her during the time she was staying with them. After she moved in with her grandparents, she recovered from her alcohol problem and got straight A’s in school.

The following is what Michael Ricci told Yahoo about how he feels about the situation:



Most nights before I fall asleep, I have tears in my eyes thinking about the difficulty my family is going through. My daughter is suing her mother and me for $16,000 towards college tuition, and a judge has ruled in her favor. My daughter moved out, and I only ever see her in court. It’s certainly not what I wanted for my family.

Every day I wake up and miss my daughter. I miss talking to her, seeing her, asking her about her day, and being involved in her life. I understand that after she was kicked out of her Disney internship, a program she participated in to help prepare for college, she was upset and angry at the rules her mother and I set for her. She was kicked out of the program for underage drinking, and so we had to set boundaries. That included chores, a curfew, and summer classes. When Caitlyn left our home in February 2013, to go to her grandparents, we thought we’d let her go for a couple days and then she would come home. When we called her grandparents to ask that they send her home, they said, “No, she can stay here as long as she wants.” That’s when we knew we had problems.

Maura and I have mutually parented Caitlyn her entire life. We’ve never before been that divorced couple that is in and out of court. We went to court only once — for our divorce. Although we may have disagreed at times, we always had Caitlyn’s best interests in mind. Always.

I found out through Twitter that my daughter was attending Temple [University in Philadelphia]. Yes, Twitter. And now, even after her mother and I agreed that if Caitlyn transferred to a state college we would help her financially (even though she hasn’t spoken to us in almost two years), a judge is telling me that if my daughter wants to go to Temple, she can go, and we have to pay for it. Basically, Caitlyn can go anywhere she wants and we have to pay. We have no say.

I am disappointed in the New Jersey Family court system for making parenting decisions for my daughter, as if they know what is best for her. The bottom line is, she made a mistake when she got kicked out of her internship program. There are consequences for her actions. She didn’t want to abide by our rules, so she left. We asked her several times to come home and she never did. It makes my blood boil listening to a judge tell me that my daughter can go to any school in country she wants to, have no relationship with her parents, and we have to pay! We offered in-state tuition and she wants to go out of state. Common sense would say she should pay for it. The law is ridiculous. My ex and I have met with legislators who are writing a new bill that protects parents from this happening again. Do you realize that if you are married in the state of New Jersey, you are not under any legal obligation to pay for college? But, if you get divorced, you must contribute? Please, someone tell me how that makes sense. Not only do you have to pay, but apparently you have to pay for any college they want to go to, anywhere in the country. My ex and I have five kids between us, a mortgage, and other expenses. Why don’t they take any of that into account?

People who are following this story have been quick to blame Caitlyn exclusively. Each and every story I read is followed by hundreds or even thousands of horrible comments about my daughter and what a brat she is.

While I absolutely place blame on Caitlyn for this, the majority of it lies with her grandparents, who have fostered and even financed this debacle while she lives at their house. What kind of people encourage their granddaughter to sue her own parents…their son? Most days I am sad, even depressed, that something so private is now so public. It’s only when I’m home with my wife or coaching my basketball players that I feel like myself. My ex and I want to help our daughter, we want her to be successful in life, but we would also like to have some influence in her life.

Maura and I are Caitlyn’s parents, so we want to have input and involvement in her decisions. Caitlyn, her attorney, and her grandparents want money. That’s it. The judge asked me in court on Monday if I had a college plan for my daughter. I presented the plan that includes financial help along with moving home and attending counseling. He asked the same of my daughter.  Her response, “I want them to pay for college.” The entire thing makes me sick to my stomach.

What do you think of this situation? Who do you side with?

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  1. Honestly Mr. Ricci? You could only hope she gets knocked up by some Syrian and they take her back to their homeland and do whatever they want with your cunt of a daughter.


    Rid her from your life, pretend she doesn’t exist and move on.

  2. That is entirely unnecessary and cruel to a family who is already suffering. I hope things end well for you. Your daughter will grow up and hopefully all of this will pass. Stay strong.

  3. I’m sorry your parents did not support you and their granddaughter for what would have helped her mature and learn from her mistakes :/

  4. Whatever happened to the word “taking responsibility”? Why didn’t the grandparents put up the money for her college, instead of the attorneys’ fees? Why didn’t Caitlyn get a full time job to pay for college (along with financial aid) like we all did at one time? This is the entitlement mentality of the next generation being fomented by liberal ideology and feminist dogma. In other words, Caitlyn falls into the mold of a “snowflake” defined as an overly sensitive person that doesn’t take criticism well, incapable of using their intellect and their words to make their point in an intelligent manner.
    Just look at her retort to her parents: “All I want them to do is pay for college”. Really Miss Snowflake. First, get a full time job at Burger King, pumping gas at a gas station, or being a laborer. Then get financial aid based on your income. And, then maybe you can ask for help (first, from the grandparents, then maybe your parents).

  5. ” My ex and I have met with legislators who are writing a new bill that protects parents from this happening again. Do you realize that if you are married in the state of New Jersey, you are not under any legal obligation to pay for college? But, if you get divorced, you must contribute? Please, someone tell me how that makes sense. ”

    I would like to add that in NJ, if your adult “child” wants to go to graduate school, you as her father will be on the hook for that as well.

    Nothing is ever going to change in the corrupt NJ “family” court system. I’ve been through it myself under similar circumstances as you, however, I was forced to pay for a $60k/yr school with no input from me for a child that wants nothing to do with me and only sees me as a wallet. After over $30k in legal fees I gave up trying to assert my rights. If you are a divorced father in NJ, the ‘family’ court system owns you. You have no constitutional rights in family court in NJ. The judges write the laws (try to find Newburgh v. Arrigo in the constitution) and the legislators are too corrupt, or entrenched, or politically un-motivated to change the system.


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