Modern Dating: Navigating the Dating Scene in the 21st Century

Dating in the 21st century from the perspective of a 24 year old single lady.

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Gone are the days of meeting your beau (1950’s word for boyfriend/girlfriend) at the local diner and sharing a single malt milkshake with two straws.  Gone are love letters, throwing rocks at windows, mixed tapes, and 10 o’clock curfews enforced by dad. Okay, maybe that last one is a good thing!

Dating in the 21st century is completely different from the dating that our parents once experienced.

All it takes is a quick Google search to find out if your Tinder match is worth swiping right for.

Five years ago, that sentence would have made no sense to anyone, but now it is one of the most popular way of dating (and avoiding) people.  The relationship process is significantly sped up because by the time you go on your first date, you already know what they look like, their hobbies, where they hang out, and what their paternal grandmother makes for Thanksgiving dinner (thanks, Instagram).

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Modern dating timeline.

You might be thinking “I don’t have social media, I still have an air of mystery about me!”.  Unfortunately, that in itself can be seen as a red flag.  One of the positive sides of social media is that you do get to know a little bit about your date before you go out together.  This can make for more interesting conversation and can help you feel more comfortable and safe on your first date.   If a potential mate doesn’t have social media, that actually strikes me as a little weird (unless they are over 50 years old, in which case, we won’t be dating anyways).

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This is a little too relatable.

There are so many dating sites and apps, that there are literally thousands of potential partners constantly at your finger tips.   Unfortunately, most of them (at least, some of the men) have been documented as being… less than smooth, to say the least. This article by Buzzfeed perfectly sums up why men should be banned from dating sites.  That’s the kind of stuff that we are dealing with! Having thousands of options at your fingertips means that there are also thousands of duds.

The age of sexting has also solved the problem that used to plague men: how am I going to show this lovely young women my flaccid penis before our first date?  Seriously… Here’s a tip (no pun intended) for men that think this is a great way to meet women: it’s not.

Another problem raised by social media is jealously.  Let’s say that you find a great match, and you guys start going steady.  Then 2 months in, you see that his ex is messaging him constantly.  This is a problem that used to be almost non-existent.  Yes, you might see Susie giving your man eyes across the dance floor, but that was pretty harmless.  Fast forward 15 years, Susie is liking all his photos on Instagram and sending him snapchats of her bikini body.  This is a problem, and it’s not going anywhere.  Social media has made it easier than ever to have affairs and meet new people, which creates a whole host of other issues.

So ladies, tell us:

How do you deal with modern dating in the 21st century? Do you love it or hate it?

 

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