For the most part we can blame Disney for the stories and Cinderella soundtrack in the background. Frankly, we can all admit to enjoying the tales of Sleeping Beauty, Beauty and the Beast, and Snow White – but what we tend to forget is while we realize they are stories, we set our standards just the same. We are raised to believe in happily ever afters and a prince who’ll come our way.
But that’s far from the truth. The truth is: there is no such thing as prince charming.
Reality is not a fairytale
In an era of romantic comedies, we as females are exposed to some of the most romantic-Hollywood scenes out there. We fall for the bad boys who turn good, want to marry the hero, and even salivate over the hottie-with-a-body-and-personality-to-boot in the latest film. But while we fawn over the latest attraction in media, we forget that men like these don’t necessarily exist in real life.
And we need to stop thinking that they do.
There is no such thing as prince charming. The ideology that a male is out there to sweep you off your feet and save you from your own metaphor for a sleeping curse of stepmother is a terrible one to live by.
Life is not a happily ever after. Life is never going to be perfect come the end of our story – it will always be a constant roller coaster of happy moments, sad moments, crazy moments, and hard moments. That’s just the way it is.
Finding a man with a white steed and a sword won’t change that.
Stop making guys live up to your standards
The more you assume guys will transform into your prince charming, the more you’ll be met with disappointment. More often than not we turn to horoscopes for the day, convincing ourselves the signs are leading us in the right direction. We convince ourselves one day, because of all this trouble we go through, we will be rewarded with our prince.
Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.
There is no such things as prince charming because just like we are no “ideal” princess, our “prince” is far from perfect. He will have flaws you will need to accept and he will have habits that you might find strange, just as he’ll need to do the same for us.
Sadly, if we truly believe someone “perfect” is out there for us – making sure any frog that comes along the way needs to fit all the checkmarks – we’ll be missing out on actual opportunities to get to know different people.
No one is going to save you – but you
Don’t be a damsel in distress in your story – be the hero. Whatever pickle you’re in, or whatever problem you may face, you need to remember a guy with testosterone is not going to be the answer to your darkest problems. You don’t need a fairy godmother either. You just need yourself. Stop focusing on creating a real life fairytale – it won’t happen.
Instead focus on just living life, enjoying life, and who knows, maybe along the way you’ll meet someone. But until then, who says you need to be the damsel in distress waiting for your prince? Who says you can’t be your own prince instead?
How do you feel about Disney’s stories when it comes to love?
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