In the battle of the sexes the question on everyones’ mind is if women can handle a one night stand just like men do. Not to be sexist or anything, but it seems to us that men just have better luck when it comes to handling one night stands, and whenever women engage in the same thing, they get flagged with stereotypes and negativity. Why is that? What makes a one night stand so different between men and women?
First off, we must look at how society treats ‘slutty men’ versus ‘slutty women’. Men are often celebrated for getting into a women’s pants and are looked at as an aspiring figure for other men to strive to become. Meanwhile, women are called whores and sluts by friends and colleague while doing the ‘walk of shame’.
This is a tale as old as time, women are taught to be endearing and to stay pure until we’re in a stable relationship. And even then, it’s sometimes looked down on for women to “give it up”. No wonder women give sex so much emotional play. One night stands just aren’t programmed into our day-to-day lives.
There’s also the stigma that one night stands are for drunk and careless people that can’t do any better. And if you can’t even remember the persons name the next day, then you’re ultimately a horrible person.
Unfortunately when people look at women who have one night stands, they are seen as suffering from low self-esteem who are desperate for attention by any means necessary. This is especially the case with those “party girls”. And of course there’s always the overwhelming fear of being protected during your one night stand, the last thing you want is to end up with a little surprise on its way after 9 months.
Of course nothing compares to the torment that women face from their friends when they share their erotic tales from their one night stand experience. Nothing quite ruins the mood when your friends remind you of all the ways you could have been killed, attacked, or taken by this practical stranger you spent the night with. Thus scaring you out of ever partaking in a one night stand ever again.
What do we take away from this? Women are perfectly capable of having a one night stand, thank you very much. It’s just the outside pressures that make it virtually impossible for us to enjoy our walk on the wild side without feeling judged, scared, or embarrassed. So why do we do this to ourselves?
Some women find it liberating to have control over their sexuality, giving them the option to do what they want, when they want. Others see it as a way to take back the power from men, because if they can do it why can’t we? Two can play that game baby!
What do you think of women having one night stands?