Survival Guide: How to Spot a Frenemy

Survival Guide: How to Spot a FrenemyIn foreign land of society, there exists a fom of being known as a frenemy. The Frenemy is cunning and manipulative, it knows its prey well and utilizes the weaknesses to its advantage. In order for the prey to not be vulnerable, it must recognize the signs and symptoms of a frenemy. Would you have what it takes to spot a frenemy? Let’s find out.


1. She doesn’t respect your boundaries.

Even friends must ask before using your belongings, even if its out of courtesy. Until you’ve told them to just go ahead and use whatever they want without having to bother asking you again, they must ask. Every. Single. Time.

2. She preys on your kindness.

Are you the generous type that likes to help out your friends when they’re in a pinch? Yeah, she knows that you are even if you don’t know it yet. And she’s going to take advantage of it. If she’s “forgotten” her wallet multiple times when you guys go out to eat, she hasn’t. She’s just letting you, the oh-so-generous one foot the bill because she knows that you’re willing to. She also knows that you’ll never bother to ask for the money back since you expect her to offer to cover for you. Which she won’t.

Survival Guide: How to Spot a Frenemy  In foreign land of society, there exists a fom of being known as a frenemy. The Frenemy is cunning and manipulative, it knows its prey well and utilizes the weaknesses to its advantage. In order for the prey to not be vulnerable, it must recognize the signs and symptoms of a frenemy. Would you have what it takes to spot a frenemy? Let's find out. 1. She doesn't respect your boundaries.  Even friends must ask before using your belongings, even if its out of courtesy. Until you've told them to just go ahead and use whatever they want without having to bother asking you again, they must ask. Every. Single. Time. 2. She preys on your kindness.  Are you the generous type that likes to help out your friends when they're in a pinch? Yeah, she knows that you are even if you don't know it yet. And she's going to take advantage of it. If she's "forgotten" her wallet multiple times when you guys go out to eat, she hasn't. She's just letting you, the oh-so-generous one foot the bill because she knows that you're willing to. She also knows that you'll never bother to ask for the money back since you expect her to offer to cover for you. Which she won't. 3. She bad mouths your other friends.  You've got more than one friend. And it's fine, you're allowed to. But to her, other friends are a sign of a threat. They can tear you away from her and in order to prevent that from happening, your "BFF" will try to bad mouth them all to you. She should be the one leaving a bad taste in your mouth. Not your other friends. 4. The world operates on H.S.T. (her standard time).  If you tell her to show up at 8 PM, she'll arrive at 8:30 PM. And she won't even bother to tell you that she's going to be late. She'll just leave you in the dark to wait for her. Real friends respect your time and take the courtesy to update you when they're going to be late. Your time is important to them so if she's constantly running late, then maybe she doesn't respect you. 5. Her method of "supporting you" is by putting you down.  When you're trying to find a job, instead of asking you up your job search update, she'll constantly point out the fact that you don't have a job. She might even state things like "don't you care that you're not making any money", or "why can't you just get a job". Pointed comments like thta show that she's insensitive to your emotions, because any true friend would understand how much you're struggling and wouldn't purposely put you down. 6. She keeps track.  Of everything. Did she lend you a pen once? Twice? Three times? Yeah, she counted every single one of them. She also counted the amount of times that she had to pick you up and she'll bring it up the next time you guys argue. Smell petty things are going to be counted too. 7. Money is her lifeline.  So she lent you $1 to help cover your coffee. One measly dollar. And she keeps bringing it up anytime money is a topic and continues to remind you that you still owe her. A couple dollars here and there shouldn't be a concern for either of you if you're truly good friends. If she makes an issue of it, it just proves how petty she can be and that she can't sacrifice a couple dollars for her friends. 8. She's okay with going for your exes.  Isn't there a rule that says that you're not supposed to date your friend's exes? Yeah, that unsaid rule doesnt exist in her mind. If you see her talking to your ex for reasons beyond asking simple questions, you should start questioning her motives. 9. Your current partner doesn't seem to be off limits.  Talking to your significant other is okay. But flirting with them and unecessary touches? That's not cool. If you get uncomfortable wheneer your friend is around your partner then you know that it's time to get rid of them. 10. Shes unecessarily rude.  It's one thing to be sassy with your friends, but when she her sass is just plain up rude, she's not a nice person. Nor is she meant to be her friend. 11. She doesn't like it when you make plans with other people.  Most people understand that you have more than one friend. If she's got jealousy problems with you hanging out with other people besides her, you might want to reassess your friendship. She doesn't own you and she should know that. 12. She constantly tries to one-up you.  When ever you accomplish anything and you share the news with her, she's got to trump your news with something better about herself. Friendship shouldn't be a competition. 13. All she does is brag.  Whether she's got the newest handbag, or she got free tickets to that Usher concert, she's going to point it out to you and make you feel bad about not having her life. Real friends don't brag, they share. She's clearly a frenemy.3. She bad mouths your other friends.

You’ve got more than one friend. And it’s fine, you’re allowed to. But to her, other friends are a sign of a threat. They can tear you away from her and in order to prevent that from happening, your “BFF” will try to bad mouth them all to you. She should be the one leaving a bad taste in your mouth. Not your other friends.

4. The world operates on H.S.T. (her standard time).

If you tell her to show up at 8 PM, she’ll arrive at 8:30 PM. And she won’t even bother to tell you that she’s going to be late. She’ll just leave you in the dark to wait for her. Real friends respect your time and take the courtesy to update you when they’re going to be late. Your time is important to them so if she’s constantly running late, then maybe she doesn’t respect you.

5. Her method of “supporting you” is by putting you down.

When you’re trying to find a job, instead of asking you up your job search update, she’ll constantly point out the fact that you don’t have a job. She might even state things like “don’t you care that you’re not making any money”, or “why can’t you just get a job”. Pointed comments like that show that she’s insensitive to your emotions, because any true friend would understand how much you’re struggling and wouldn’t purposely put you down.

Survival Guide: How to Spot a Frenemy6. She keeps track.

Of everything. Did she lend you a pen once? Twice? Three times? Yeah, she counted every single one of them. She also counted the amount of times that she had to pick you up and she’ll bring it up the next time you guys argue. Smell petty things are going to be counted too.

7. Money is her lifeline.

So she lent you $1 to help cover your coffee. One measly dollar. And she keeps bringing it up anytime money is a topic and continues to remind you that you still owe her. A couple dollars here and there shouldn’t be a concern for either of you if you’re truly good friends. If she makes an issue of it, it just proves how petty she can be and that she can’t sacrifice a couple dollars for her friends.

8. She’s okay with going for your exes.

Isn’t there a rule that says that you’re not supposed to date your friend’s exes? Yeah, that unsaid rule doesnt exist in her mind. If you see her talking to your ex for reasons beyond asking simple questions, you should start questioning her motives.

Survival Guide: How to Spot a Frenemy9. Your current partner doesn’t seem to be off limits.

Talking to your significant other is okay. But flirting with them and unecessary touches? That’s not cool. If you get uncomfortable wheneer your friend is around your partner then you know that it’s time to get rid of them.

10. Shes unecessarily rude.

It’s one thing to be sassy with your friends, but when she her sass is just plain up rude, she’s not a nice person. Nor is she meant to be her friend.

11. She doesn’t like it when you make plans with other people.

Most people understand that you have more than one friend. If she’s got jealousy problems with you hanging out with other people besides her, you might want to reassess your friendship. She doesn’t own you and she should know that.

Survival Guide: How to Spot a Frenemy12. She constantly tries to one-up you.

When ever you accomplish anything and you share the news with her, she’s got to trump your news with something better about herself. Friendship shouldn’t be a competition.

13. All she does is brag.

Whether she’s got the newest handbag, or she got free tickets to that Usher concert, she’s going to point it out to you and make you feel bad about not having her life. Real friends don’t brag, they share. She’s clearly a frenemy.

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